Melanie

  De Jong

Melanie

  De Jong

Hey There, I’m Melanie! I am a former CPA turned personal finance blogger and mom of three. When you ‘Budget With Mel’, you’ll develop monthly budgets, cost-cutting tactics, and learn new behaviors and beliefs about money. It’s time you took the stress and confusion out of your personal finances.

Hey There, I’m Melanie! I am a former CPA turned personal finance blogger and mom of three. When you ‘Budget With Mel’, you’ll develop monthly budgets, cost-cutting tactics, and learn new behaviors and beliefs about money. It’s time you took the stress and confusion out of your personal finances.

Here is Why Your Budget Never Works & How to Fix it

melaniedj • Jan 12, 2019

If I had a penny for every time I’ve heard “I’m glad budgeting works for you, but there’s just no way that would work for me/us/my family.” Or, “you must have a lot of free time if you have time to budget.” LOL.

I literally go into panic mode when I have free time. I’m like what should I do? Read a book? Learn spanish? Go workout for the first time in six weeks? Solve world hunger?

All you moms out there get it.

My point is if you find yourself coming up with excuses, you have made the choice to believe that a budget will not work for you.

Yes, there will absolutely be some bumps along the way (especially if you are new to budgeting), but just like with anything else in life worth pursuing, if you would just stick with it, you will see a reward!

That being said, here are some of the most common budgeting mistakes and how you can avoid them!  

Why Your Budget Never Works [& How to Fix it]

The Budget Must be Written

To make the obvious really obvious, you must keep a written budget.

No, you can’t “keep it in your head.” That never works. Just like I tell myself I don’t have to write out my to-do’s because I’ve got them all listed in my handy-dandy noggin. Fat chance.

Commit to a monthly written budget.

Your budget needs to be written, and it needs to be updated monthly in order to be effective.

If you’ve created a budget but haven’t looked at it in months, then you are not living on a budget. You made a failed attempt to live on a budget.

Commit to it, and write it down.

If you don't have a monthly budget template, subscribe below and you'll get my free, customized monthly budget template!

If you are committed to learning how to control your finances with a budget, I have a monthly budget bundle and household financial planning guide that will help you do the following:

  • Take control of your money
  • Keep an organized monthly budget
  • Track your monthly bills
  • Stop living paycheck to paycheck
  • Track your monthly expenses
  • Pay off debt quickly
  • Track your net worth

Remember- YOU can do it, becoming financially free is not some far-fetched dream.

If you take the right steps and consistently do what others do occasionally, you will win with money.

Planning Well

One of the biggest reasons people become frustrated with budgeting is because they forget about an expense, and when it comes up, they panic.

They say to hell with the budget, it doesn’t work anyway!

That’s simply not true, the fact of the matter is you didn’t plan well.

When you set up a budget, you have to plan for monthly, recurring expenses as well as seasonal, irregular expenses. You have to think long-term.

What big expenses do you have during the year? Write them all out. Be sure to include things like semi-annual/annual insurance premiums, car registration dues, school fees/dues/tuition, etc.

Also include general expenses that maybe are not monthly or regular, but that could bite you in the butt if you don’t plan for them. This would include things like car repairs, vacation, medical expenses, etc.

If you need more help with incorporating seasonal/irregular expenses into your budget, here are some additional resources:

You Must MAKE TIME

The budget has to be a regular, scheduled priority. This is non-negotiable.

You’re busy. I get it. We all are. Being busy doesn’t make you important, cool, or worthy. It just makes you busy.

Don’t hide behind the statement that you’re “too busy.” That’s just a load of sh*t. Most of the people whom I encounter that say they are too busy to budget act like they are better than everyone else and above budgeting because of it.

It’s like they’re trying to say "Look at all my obligations and responsibilities. I am productive, industrious, accomplished and successful."

Considering we are wealthier than ever, yet over half of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck, you probably can’t afford NOT to budget.

Our monthly budget takes me about fifteen minutes to complete.

Fifteen minutes is worth it to know that we have a financial plan, and we are investing in our future.

No Wiggle Room

If you don’t leave any room for unexpected expenses, you are setting your budget up to fail!

They will come, that I promise you. That is why I recommend having a “miscellaneous” category for things that come up that are not planned.

Your budget should be a zero dollar budget, meaning that every single dollar is planned. However, there should be a category that is a “catch all” category. Try not to use this category often, but keep it in the budget so that when things do come up, you’re not tempted to throw in the towel.

Remember, budgeting can only make things better.

Leaving Out Fun

Fun is vital to a budget, because without it, budget becomes a cuss word.

Living on a budget does NOT mean only eat ramen and no more concerts, eating out, vacations, or the like. A budget simply allows you spend money doing those things guilt-free because you have planned for them, and you don’t have to go into debt to do those things!

We go on multiple vacations a year, and we do not have a single credit card. We literally live on cash. Great news! YOU CAN TOO. If you would commit to sticking to a budget, you can literally cut up your credit cards, live on cash, and STILL have fun.  

Make room in the budget for vacations, eating out, and entertainment!

Doing it Alone

It will be hard to stick to a budget if you and your spouse are not on the same page. In fact, it’s about impossible.

If you have a reluctant spouse or feel like your spouse will not want to get on a board with a budget, keep a few things in mind:

  • Timing is everything. Don't decide to bring up your financial troubles/disagreements on the way to a family gathering. Bad timing. Bring it up when you are alone and when your spouse is available to discuss.
  • Work on your approach. If you start off the discussion by telling your spouse how much they suck with money, things probably are not going to go well. Approach in a calm, understanding, and open-minded manner.
  • Don’t criticize or belittle. Fight the urge to criticize your spouse if they resist your attempts to get on a financial plan. This WILL NOT HELP. Take it from me, your spouse will be much more willing to listen if you avoid harsh criticism and belittling language.

Remember, you are on the SAME team.

In order to be successful at budgeting, you need your spouse to share the same vision and goals as you.

You Have the Wrong Priorities

I’m just going to be completely honest. More often than not, the reason that budgeting doesn’t “work” for some people is because it forces them to make a plan to live BELOW their means.

This becomes problematic if you care about how much money other people think you have.

Many people will spend their whole life paying off a lifestyle that they can’t afford.

There was a time when I was so caught up in what others perception of me was that it at times pushed me to live a lifestyle that I couldn’t afford.

I have a lot more money now than I did then, yet I care about it less and less.

At this point you’re probably thinking, that doesn’t make sense! You blog about money, of course you care about it! Yes, I LOVE to talk about money and I LOVE to help others achieve financial freedom.

I have more money than I ever had in the past, and I probably talk about money more than I ever have in the past, but it doesn't control me like it did in the past.

There are many luxuries we can afford, but I don’t feel like I need them to get a false sense of acceptance and validation.

That is my key point- my priorities are more in order than ever before.

I plan financially to be responsible and to take control of our finances, but I do not let money control ME.

DECIDE TO MAKE A BUDGET WORK

A budget is not rocket science.

You don't have to be good with numbers (or money for that matter) to create a budget.

However, you do have to exert some self-discipline in order to make it work!

If you need help setting up a budget, here are some resources!

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